Nowadays, the traditional daily trip to the mailbox anxiously awaiting college acceptances has adopted the new age mantra of instantaneous euphoria or misery via email. In an instant, hundreds and thousands of acceptances and rejections are filtered into students “professional” emails whereby the months and months of hard work and meditative waiting culminate in either one of two phrases: “We are pleased to inform…” or “We regret to inform…” Although rejections can give the pungent feel of failure or present unflattering counter truths about us that challenge our self perception, it is important to be grateful to the colleges that did see the potential in you and believe in your ambitions.
So You Didn’t Get in to Your Dream School?
Harvard, Stanford, UC Berkeley and any other schools ranked in the top twenty national schools listed on Best Colleges List are dream schools for any student applying. Even the most academically pristine student with a 4.0 GPA and 2400 SAT score (soon to be out of 1600) aren’t guaranteed admittance with acceptance rates ranging from seven to fourteen percent for highly desired schools. The fact of the matter is that there isn’t enough physical space to hold an infinite amount of students at universities. Try living in Isla Vista with more than 22,000 UC Santa Barbara students…it would be impossible. Thus, when your hopes of attending one of these institutions is shattered, give yourself a day to mourn but realize that sulking for the duration of your senior year would be a juvenile travesty.
Why Shouldn’t I Be an Angry Soul?
The answer is quite simple. Most of the students in this year’s senior class fall at the very end of the Millennial Generation, which are also known as the “Entitled Ones.” As the title echoes, the conditioned psyche that has been engrained in this generation is a sense of entitlement. Unlike the Baby Boomer generation that has always valued the cultivation of a strong work ethic and loyalty, the YOLOite (“You Only Live Once”) generation has been taught since adolescence that they are special and highly deserving of anything and everything they desire. As a result, many parents and students rationalize their reasoning for why they believe the student deserves to be admitted to top tier universities. While this type of thinking is highly beneficial in promoting confidence in the student, it is a double edged sword and can quickly spiral into arrogance without being grounded. Although attending college is becoming a necessity in today’s day and age, it is integral to remember that it is also a privilege for many. Thus, to be an angry soul for an extended period of time when one has many other prospects for colleges can be seen as the epitome of what it is to be entitled.
Be Grateful for Your Opportunities
Not only is it medically proven that anger leads to higher levels of stress and anxiety, but focusing on the negative over the positive leads to greater levels of depression. Thus, constantly obsessing over college rejections is simply unhealthy and gives the heir of entitlement. Instead, why not try to be overjoyed and appreciative to the admission officers that didn’t crush your dream? You can use all of your positive energy to enjoy the rest of your senior year, plan for your future, and know that you can apply again to that same dream school for graduate studies. Life is too short to dwell in the negative, and in a society that is constantly priming us to be slightly dissatisfied with everything, it is even more of a reason to remember to be grateful for the opportunities afforded to us. Thus, celebrate your college acceptance and be proud of your children because being accepted into college in no small feat, and it is a luxury.